Thanks to everyone who tuned into our Substack Live.
This week, Tracy was joined by a special guest: Myisha Battle, a feminist sex and dating coach, and author of the newly released book Sexual Pleasure for Dummies. It’s an inclusive, empathetic, and nuanced look at the role pleasure plays in our lives—and all the things that get in the way of it.
You might remember Myisha from the Dire Straights IRL event that we did last year around the biggest complaints in hetero life right now. This time, we’re focusing on pleasure.
Just a few topics we touched on:
stress and caregiving getting in the way of pleasure
why chore wheels show up in her coaching practice
men who prefer that their partners fake orgasms
avoiding the trap of pleasure becoming yet another form of work that women disproportionately do in hetero relationships
how porn has changed over the past decade, including the new intimate horizons of OnlyFans
what people are really looking for when they talk about “spontaneous” sex
the lie of being “vanilla”
kinky tradwives, milkmaid fantasies, and MAHA husbands drinking breastmilk
men refusing to wear condoms
people still not knowing about the clitoris!
women’s sexual awakenings blowing up marriages
using ChatGPT to decode a partner’s intentions, instead of just… asking them
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