Is porn a scapegoat for patriarchy?

The adult industry has been blamed for everything from the ‘male loneliness epidemic' to low-effort men to women’s heteropessimism—and now it's being…

Feb 18 • Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei

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Epstein was behind the #MeToo backlash

Dire Straights Live: Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei talk about Chris Harrison's trad marriage dating show, manospherean looksmaxxer Clavicular…

Feb 11 • Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

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Men need therapy. They also need feminism.

Men will do literally anything other than go to therapy, but is it all they need? And what are women really longing for when they insist their partners…

Feb 4 • Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

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January 2026

The hetero-politics of ICE

Dire Straights Live: Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei talk about hypermasculine state-sponsored violence, lies about protecting women and 'the…

Jan 28 • Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

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Monogamy is a feminist problem

We consider the trouble with monogamy culture—its inequities, exploitations, and scarcity mentality—and the possibility of being 'anti-monogamy…

Jan 21 • Tracy Clark-Flory

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Is ‘Heated Rivalry' an escape from heterosexuality?

Dire Straights Live: Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei dig into HBO's spicy hockey drama—from delighting in men's bodies to portrayals of consent to…

Jan 14 • Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei

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Is dating dead?

We dig into burnout on the apps, romance plots, low-effort men, and our collective nostalgia for a nonexistent golden era of dating under patriarchy…

Jan 7 • Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

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December 2025

Can married and divorced women be friends?

We confront tensions in the air between single and hitched ladies, respond to listener stories, and consider how we can all have better relationships.

Dec 17, 2025 • Amanda Montei

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The official Dire Straights gift guide

Thoughtful ideas for all the dire, and not-so-dire, friends and lovers in your life, from the husband who isn’t pulling his weight around the house, to…

Dec 12, 2025 • Dire Straights

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Men! The apps! The mental load!

Dire Straights IRL: Tracy Clark-Flory, Amanda Montei, and Myisha Battle talk in front of a live Bay Area audience about the biggest complaints about…

Dec 10, 2025 • Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei

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Christmas is an ad for heterosexuality

We talk about the holidays as a sales pitch for marriage and the nuclear family, how Santa erases women's labor, and why we all know Mrs. Claus is the…

Dec 3, 2025 • Tracy Clark-Flory and Amanda Montei

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November 2025

Single straights! We want your dating stories

Send us your worst dates, your romance wins, and your requests for advice.

Nov 25, 2025 • Amanda Montei

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